“The Search for the Key” pointed us inward to find the key to our true self. Today’s story, “Befriending Your Monsters,” from 101 HEALING STORIES, by George Burns, suggestions what we might do with what we find in our search for our true self.
Long ago, in a time that was and was not, a baby boy was born whose destiny it was to free the world of monsters. The boy grew in stature and skill, and when he was twelve years old his father gave him a magical bow and arrow with the power to slay whatever monster the boy took aim at. Thus equipped, the young warrior set off to find and destroy the monsters that terrified his people.
He hadn’t gone very far before he encountered the Monster of Hunger. He raised his bow and arrow, pointed it toward the monster’s heart and shouted bravely, “Prepare yourself to die. You have been causing my people to be hungry. They suffer and feel discomfort. I shall eliminate you and free them from hunger.”
The monster looked him in the eye and asked, “Is that what you really want? I acknowledge I do cause your people discomfort, but think what benefits I bring them as well. Without hunger, they would have no desire to go hunting for their own food. Without hunger, they would sit and die. I give them the drive to find food and survive. Instead of trying to destroy me, look at ways I might be useful. Stop seeing me as a monster and examine how I might keep people healthy, contented, and happy.”
The young warrior saw the truth in what the monster said. Perhaps he was not so monstrous after all, and the discomfort he created had its essential benefits. So the young warrior spared the monster’s life, thinking perhaps it was better to befriend than destroy this powerful force.
Later, he came upon the Monster of Winter. He was a monster that surely needed to be eliminated, so he raised his bow and arrow. “You bring cold and darkness into the life of my people,” he challenged her. “You make us shiver and, at times, you are so cold that people die. I must destroy you.”
“Yes,” replied the Monster of Winter, “What you say is right. I do bring cold and darkness into your lives, but think how much you need me. I bring rain that fills your rivers, waters your crops, and feeds the animals that you hunt. I pave the way for the warmth and beauty of spring. Without me, there would be no spring and, without spring, the animals you need for food and clothing would not mate and reproduce.”
The young warrior realized that what the Monster of Winter said was true. She was not all bleak and evil, as he had originally perceived her but offered much that his people needed. If people could enjoy these benefits rather than think only of the cold and misery, their lives would be richer. So he spared her life and befriended her.
As he continued on, he encountered the Monster of Suffering. “Ah ha!” Shouted the young warrior. “At last I have found a monster that humanity can do without. Nobody wants to suffer. Prepare to be slain.”
“I know what you are thinking,” said the Monster of Suffering. “You think that I cause people needless pain, discomfort, and unhappiness. You think they would be better off without me. But have you thought about what benefits I bring to people? It is because of me that people learn, grow, and develop. Remember as a child when you put your hand too close to the fire and experienced the pain of the heat? Your suffering was brief, but you learned from the experience. That learning has protected you, maybe even saved your life. People grow from pain. They learn through their suffering. Like me or not, you need me.”
The young warrior lowered his bow, for he had discovered another truth. Nobody likes to suffer or experience pain, yet somehow there was something paradoxical about it. through pain we learn to avoid pain and grow from the experience. Through suffering we learn to avoid suffering and discover something about happiness. Even suffering has its place if we learn how to benefit from it.
The young warrior changed the purpose of the mission that initially engaged him. His goal now was to befriend what he thought were monsters, for he had much to learn from them.
