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A Teacher of Love

June 10th, 2009

Welcome

Heart Tales is a monthly newsletter for people on an adventure toward wholeness. It is published by Jim Cyr, storyteller, author, and crisis intervention specialist.

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A Teacher of Love

There once was a spiritual community in which an old man lived who was the personification of difficulty–irritable, messy, fighting with everyone, and unwilling to clean up or help at all. No one got along with him. Finally, after many frustrating months of trying to stay with the group, the old man left.

The holy man who led the community followed him and tried to convince him to return, but it had been too hard, and the man said no. At last the leader of the community offered the man a very big monthly stipend if he returned. How could he refuse?

When the old man returned everyone was aghast, and on hearing that he was being paid (while they were being charged a lot to live there), the community was up in arms.

The leader of the community called them together and after hearing their complaints laughed and explained: “This man is a teacher of love.” He said, “Without him you would never really learn about anger, irritability, patience, compassion. and love. That is why you pay me, and why I hire him.”

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Adapted from Stories of the Spirit, Stories of the Heart edited by Christina Feldman and Jack Kornfield.

Thought to Ponder

 Who is your “teacher of love”?

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Heart Tales News

Book

My book, The Cracked Pot: Finding Grace in the Cracks of Child Abuse is available at Amazon.com

“This is one man’s true story of the unspeakable things that were done to him as a child and his rocky journey through adulthood to find God, peace AND his true self.”

Blog

If you enjoy this newsletter, check out The Heart Tales Blog at http://hearttales.net/blog. The blog is published every Monday and Thursday. Check out the current series on The Magic Brocade.

About Jim & Heart Tales

The true spirit of my work is to lead people on a life-changing adventure toward wholeness by connecting their hearts to their true selves, to others, and to God, through stories of healing, wisdom, and faith. My life-changing adventure toward wholeness includes performances of folk and fairy tales, sacred stories, and personal stories, and workshops on how to tell stories in therapeutic settings.

Feedback

“Jim’s storytelling spoke to many of the problems our women face on the road to recovery from addiction and gave them options for handling those problems they had not considered before.”
Helen Raytek, Program Director, Crawford House

“Jim, I want to thank you for your time, efforts, and talents in presenting your Clinical Benefits of Storytelling Workshop. I was very impressed with your professional and fun deliverance of the material and many useful resources and examples. I felt I benefited from it both personally and professionally, and will use what I learned…”
John J. D. Schweska, L.P.C. Assistant Program Director, Mobile Response and Stabilization Services, Catholic Charities, Diocese of Metuchen

“…your newsletter is a wonderful resource, and I hope that many will subscribe to it.”
Dr. Robert Bela Wilhelm, Storyfest Ministry

“…Thank you once again, Jim, for sharing your stories/your story and influencing my healing.”
Eileen

Iron Shirt

May 11th, 2009

Welcome

Heart Tales is a monthly newsletter for people on an adventure toward wholeness. It is published by Jim Cyr, storyteller, author, and crisis intervention specialist.

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Iron Shirt

A young man begged a great Kung-fu master to teach him the Iron Shirt exercises, an esoteric system reputed to make the muscles and organs so strong that they are impervious to blows.

The master first refused, but finally gave him a kung (a formidable challenge). Pointing to a thick tree, he said, “Pull up that tree and bring it to me; then I’ll teach you Iron Shirt.”

After months of futile tugging, the student noticed that he could get better leverage if he kept his back straight. With further experimentation he found the optimal way to plant his feet. He worked on, incrementally adjusting the way he hugged the tree, the way he breathed, the way he visualized the task.

After four years the tree started to give. Finally he uprooted it and laid it at the master’s feet, demanding, “Now teach me Iron Shirt!” “Now I don’t have to,” the master replied. “You just learned it.”

Adapted from Why the Chicken Crossed the Road & Other Hidden Enlightenment Teachings from Buddha to Bebop to Mother Goose by Dean Sluyter.

Thought to Ponder

What lesson(s) is life trying to teach you?

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What’s on My Desk

Currently, I am reading…

Agnes’s Jacket. A Psychologist’s Search for the Meaning of Madness by Gail Hornstein.

Hornstein, a professor of psychology at Mount Holyoke, investigates personal testimonies of madness for what they can teach us about mental illness and its treatment. The author spent several years attending meetings of psychiatric survivor groups, such as the Hearing Voices Network in the U.K. Hornstein concludes that mental illness is primarily based in trauma, as opposed to the dominant view of biological and hereditary origins.

The stories of psychiatric survivors are heartbreaking and inspiring and will stir you to throw away your Prozac and cancel your next psychiatric appointment!

Heart Tales News

Book

My book, The Cracked Pot: Finding Grace in the Cracks of Child Abuse is available at Amazon.com

“This is one man’s true story of the unspeakable things that were done to him as a child and his rocky journey through adulthood to find God, peace AND his true self.”

Blog

If you enjoy this newsletter, check out The Heart Tales Blog at http://hearttales.net/blog. The blog is published every Monday and Thursday. Check out the current series on Gwinlan’s Harp.

About Jim & Heart Tales

The true spirit of my work is to lead people on a life-changing adventure toward wholeness by connecting their hearts to their true selves, to others, and to God, through stories of healing, wisdom, and faith. My life-changing adventure toward wholeness includes performances of folk and fairy tales, sacred stories, and personal stories, and workshops on how to tell stories in therapeutic settings.

Feedback

“Jim’s storytelling spoke to many of the problems our women face on the road to recovery from addiction and gave them options for handling those problems they had not considered before.”
Helen Raytek, Program Director, Crawford House

“Jim, I want to thank you for your time, efforts, and talents in presenting your Clinical Benefits of Storytelling Workshop. I was very impressed with your professional and fun deliverance of the material and many useful resources and examples. I felt I benefited from it both personally and professionally, and will use what I learned…”
John J. D. Schweska, L.P.C. Assistant Program Director, Mobile Response and Stabilization Services, Catholic Charities, Diocese of Metuchen

“…your newsletter is a wonderful resource, and I hope that many will subscribe to it.”
Dr. Robert Bela Wilhelm, Storyfest Ministry

“…Thank you once again, Jim, for sharing your stories/your story and influencing my healing.”
Eileen

The True Voice

April 7th, 2009

Welcome

Heart Tales is a monthly newsletter for people on an adventure toward wholeness. It is published by Jim Cyr, storyteller, author, and crisis intervention specialist.

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The True Voice

Recently, I read a book called Life of the Beloved by Henri J.M. Nouwen. Nouwen was a Catholic priest who taught at Harvard, Yale, and Notre Dame. Then he left the wolrd of academia and spent ten years at the L’Arche Daybreak community in Toronto where he ministered to physically and mentally handicapped people.

The theme of Nouwen’s book is that we are each “God’s Beloved.” Nouwen writes about how important it is for us as “God’s Beloved” to believe we are blessed by God. He notes that so many of us, far from believing we are blessed, instead believe we are cursed. Nouwen invites his readers to claim their blessedness and then to offer people blessing in the name of God.

As I reflected on Nouwen’s book my thoughts went to the children I work with as a crisis intervention specialist with Children’s Mobile Response and Stabilization Services. So many of these children feel they have been cursed. Cursed because their parents criticize and belittle them instead of love and accept them. Cursed because they have been neglected or abused. Cursed because they have been ridiculed and rejected by their peers. One girl told me, “I am at the bottom of the food chain.”

So I wondered how I can “bless” these children who feel and live as though they are cursed. Nouwen, at the request of some of the residents of L’Arche for a blessing, one time enfolded each one with his arms in the folds of his robe, placed their head on his chest, a pronounced a personalized blessing on them in the name of God. I cannot do that for my clients. But, I thought, I can bless them with a story that let’s them hear that they, too, are Beloved and blessed.

“The True Voice” is a story I wrote to tell the children I work with. I share this “blessing” story with you.

Each time I tell this story I personalize it with the name of the child I am speaking with. For this telling I will use my wife’s name, Carol.

Once upon a time there was a girl whose ears only heard bad things said about her.

People told the girl, “You are smart,” “You are funny,” “You are kind.” But all her ears heard was, “You are no good,” You did something wrong,” “You are a failure,” It’s all your fault,” “You can’t do anything right.”

All day long the girl met people who smiled at her and said, “You try very hard,” “You do a good job,” “You are very clever.” But all the girl’s ears ever heard was, “You are no good,” “You did something wrong,” “You are a failure,” “It’s all your fault,” “You can’t do anything right.”

Even at night when she went to sleep and dreamed, all she heard was bad things said about her, never anything good. So the girl often felt sad, and angry inside.

One day, as the girl was walking down the street, a funny little old man with a twinkle in his eye, rode up on an old rusty blue bicycle and smiled at the girl. The strange old man was wearing a yellow T-shirt and baggy blue jeans held up by rainbow suspenders. The old man slowed down and rode beside the girl as she walked. The old man surprised her when he called her by name.

The old man said, “Carol, put your hand over your heart.” The girl said, “What?” The funny old man with the twinkle in his eye said, “Put your hand over your heart, like this.” The old man took one hand off the handle bars and put it over his heart. Carol put her hand over her heart and looked at the old man wondering who he was and what this was all about.

Then the old man said, “Now listen!” “Listen to what?” Carol asked. “Listen to the True Voice,” the old man said. “What’s the True Voice?” asked Carol.

“What’s the True Voice,” the old man exclaimed, raising his eyebrows. “The True Voice is the voice that tells you the truth! It’s not the voices that say, ‘You are no good,’ ‘You did something wrong,’ ‘You are a failure,’ ‘It’s all your fault,’ ‘You can’t do anything right.’ It’s the quiet voice you hear deep inside you, coming from your heart that you feel beating under your hand right now. The True Voice says, ‘You are loved!’ ‘You are special!’ ‘You are important!’”

Carol stopped walking and listened. The old man stopped peddling, put one foot on the ground to balance himself on the bike, and looked at Carol. “Can you hear the True Voice?” asked the little old man.

“How am I supposed to hear such a quiet voice when all those other voices are shouting at me all the time?” asked the girl.

“Well,” the little old man said, first, stand still. Then, listen to the wind, or if it’s raining listen to the rain, or if there’s no wind or rain, then listen to the birds. They will help you hear the True Voice because they will remind you to be quiet and listen to your heart.”

“After you’ve listened to the wind or the rain or the birds for a little bit, put your hand over your heart and listen to the True Voice, the quiet voice deep in your hear that says, ‘You are loved!’ ‘You are special!’ ‘You are important!’”

With that, the little old man with the twinkle in his eye, began to peddle away on his rusty blue bike. As he rode away he looked over his shoulder and said with a smile, “If you practice listening to the True Voice pretty soon it will be much louder thant the other voices.”

Carol stood there watching the strange old man ride away. When the man on the rusty blue bike was out of sight, Carol heard the wind blowing through the leaves of the trees. She stood there listening to the red and orange maple leaves blowing in the wind. Then she put her hand over her heart, stood very still, and listened very carefully. She thought she could hear a very soft voice deep inside saying, “You are loved!” “You are special!” “You are important!” Just then a robin began to sing. And Carol smiled. 

Thought to Ponder

Do you hear the True Voice?

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What’s on My Desk

Currently, I am reading…

Mark as Story: An Introduction to the Narrative of a Gospel  by David Rhoads, Johanna Dewey. Donald Michie. This book shows teachers and students how to read Mark as narrative. It explores how the gospel writer shaped his telling of the story of Jesus through the narrator, setting, plot, and chacters. Tis book is a valuable aid for anyone wishing to tell stories from the gospel of Mark.

Heart Tales News

Book

My book, The Cracked Pot: Finding Grace in the Cracks of Child Abuse is available at Amazon.com

“This is one man’s true story of the unspeakable things that were done to him as a child and his rocky journey through adulthood to find God, peace AND his true self.”

Blog

If you enjoy this newsletter, check out The Heart Tales Blog at http://hearttales.net/blog. The blog is published every Monday and Thursday. Check out the current series on Gwinlan’s Harp.

About Jim & Heart Tales

The true spirit of my work is to lead people on a life-changing adventure toward wholeness by connecting their hearts to their true selves, to others, and to God, through stories of healing, wisdom, and faith. My life-changing adventure toward wholeness includes performances of folk and fairy tales, sacred stories, and personal stories, and workshops on how to tell stories in therapeutic settings.

Feedback

“Jim’s storytelling spoke to many of the problems our women face on the road to recovery from addiction and gave them options for handling those problems they had not considered before.”
Helen Raytek, Program Director, Crawford House

“Jim, I want to thank you for your time, efforts, and talents in presenting your Clinical Benefits of Storytelling Workshop. I was very impressed with your professional and fun deliverance of the material and many useful resources and examples. I felt I benefited from it both personally and professionally, and will use what I learned…”
John J. D. Schweska, L.P.C. Assistant Program Director, Mobile Response and Stabilization Services, Catholic Charities, Diocese of Metuchen

“…your newsletter is a wonderful resource, and I hope that many will subscribe to it.”
Dr. Robert Bela Wilhelm, Storyfest Ministry

“…Thank you once again, Jim, for sharing your stories/your story and influencing my healing.”
Eileen

The Worst and the Best

March 15th, 2009

Welcome

Heart Tales is a monthly newsletter for people on an adventure toward wholeness. It is published by Jim Cyr, storyteller, author, and crisis intervention specialist.

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The Worst and the Best

The ruler of a prosperous kingdom sent for one of his messengers. When he arrived the King told him to go out and find the worst thing in the entire world and bring it back within a few days. The messenger departed and returned days later, empty-handed. Puzzled, the King asked, “What have you discovered? I don’t see anything.” The messenger said, “Right here, Your Majesty,” and stuck out his tongue. Bewildered, the King asked the young man to explain.

“The messenger said, “My tongue can do many horrible things. My tongue speaks evil and tells lies. I can overindulge with my tongue which leaves me feeling tired and sick, and I can say things that hurt other people. My tongue is the worst thing in the world.” Pleased, the King then commanded the messenger to go out and find him the best thing in the entire world.

The messenger left hurriedly, and once again he came back days later with nothing in his hands. “Where is it?” the King shouted out. Again, the messenger stuck out his tongue. “Show me,” the King said, “How can it be?” The messenger replied, ” My tongue is the best thing in the world. My tongue is a messenger of love. Only with my tongue can I express the overwhelming beauty of poetry. My tongue teaches me refinement in tastes and guides me to choose foods that will nourish my body. My tongue is the best thing in the world because it allows me to chant the name of God.”

The King was well satisfied. He appointed the messenger to become foremost among his personal advisors.”

a story told by Guru Mayi, leader of the Siddha Yoga Foundation, found in The Dark Side of the Light Chasers:Reclaiming your Power, Creativity, Brilliance, and Dreams, by Debbie Ford

Thought to Ponder

“I like to imagine a person’s psyche to be like a boarding house full of characters. The ones who show up regularly and who habitually follow the house rules may not have met other long-term residents who stay behind the closed doors, or who only appear at night. An adequate theory of character must make room for character actors, for the stuntmen and animal handlers, for all the figures who play bit parts and produce unexpected acts. They often make the show fateful, or tragic, or farcically absurd.” James Hillman

Take stock of all the characters in your psyche’s boarding house. Let the oddball ones introduce themselves to the regulars.

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What’s on My Desk

Currently, I am reading…

The Compass Rose by Ursula K. Le Guin. This book of short stories contains one of my all time favorite stories, “Gwilan’s Harp,” a story that I first heard told by Patrick Ball on his CD “Storyteller: Gwilan’s Harp and Other Celtic Tales.”

Heart Tales News

Book

My book, The Cracked Pot: Finding Grace in the Cracks of Child Abuse is available at Amazon.com

“This is one man’s true story of the unspeakable things that were done to him as a child and his rocky journey through adulthood to find God, peace AND his true self.”

Blog

If you enjoy this newsletter, check out The Heart Tales Blog at http://hearttales.net/blog. The blog is published every Monday and Thursday. Check out the current series about the Brownie of Blednock.

About Jim & Heart Tales

The true spirit of my work is to lead people on a life-changing adventure toward wholeness by connecting their hearts to their true selves, to others, and to God, through stories of healing, wisdom, and faith. My life-changing adventure toward wholeness includes performances of folk and fairy tales, sacred stories, and personal stories, and workshops on how to tell stories in therapeutic settings.

Feedback

“Jim’s storytelling spoke to many of the problems our women face on the road to recovery from addiction and gave them options for handling those problems they had not considered before.”
Helen Raytek, Program Director, Crawford House

“Jim, I want to thank you for your time, efforts, and talents in presenting your Clinical Benefits of Storytelling Workshop. I was very impressed with your professional and fun deliverance of the material and many useful resources and examples. I felt I benefited from it both personally and professionally, and will use what I learned…”
John J. D. Schweska, L.P.C. Assistant Program Director, Mobile Response and Stabilization Services, Catholic Charities, Diocese of Metuchen

“…your newsletter is a wonderful resource, and I hope that many will subscribe to it.”
Dr. Robert Bela Wilhelm, Storyfest Ministry

“…Thank you once again, Jim, for sharing your stories/your story and influencing my healing.”
Eileen

The Wooden Bowl

February 2nd, 2009

Welcome

Heart Tales is a monthly newsletter for people on an adventure toward wholeness. It is published by Jim Cyr, storyteller, author, and crisis intervention specialist.

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The Wooden Bowl

John and his young wife, Mary, were excited and glad the day John’s elderly father, Sam, came to live on their small farm. Mary set the table with a fine meal of fresh vegetables and home-baked bread. The couple covered a new bed in an adjoining room with a warm comforter and a soft pillow.

“We hope you’ll be comfortable here,” John said, as he carried his father’s few belongings into the room.

“As long as I have family around me,” Sam said, as he wiped a tear from his eyes, “I will be happy. Perhaps I can help out a bit. I want to be useful.”

“You are welcome to work as you will or rest as you want, Dad,” said John.

The next morning, the old man dressed himself in work clothes and went out to the barn to feed the pigs and chickens. He scooped the chicken feed into a wooden bowl and scattered it about the yard. A smile lit up his face as he watched the rooster strut about.

“Oh, to be young again,” he sighed to himself as he rubbed his stiff hands to ease the pain he felt in his old joints.

Each day the old man did as much as his body would allow. Each night he sat with John and Mary at dinner. He noticed the swelling of Mary’s belly and eagerly looked forward to the day when his first grandchild would be born.

Days turned into weeks and weeks into months and, at last, the child was born. The old man held his tiny grandson with great tenderness. He could see his own son’s face as he gazed with wonder at the tiny eyes that stared back at him.

“Be careful how you hold him,” Mary said. Your hands are trembling.”

The old man had noticed his trembling hands too. The dull pain he felt in his joints had increased and now his hands were betraying him.

“Don’t drop him,” scolded Mary, as she snatched the child away.

The old man began to fail quickly. By the time his grandson, Josh, could sit up by himself, the old man found it harder to cast the feed from the feeding bowl. His hands could not grip a pitch fork. John tried to ignore his father’s aging.

By the time Josh could walk, the old man could no longer stride to the barn. His steps were slow. His back was stooped. He worked as he could but could not accomplish much. Times were hard and John had to let most of  the farm help go. Now he worked from dawn to dusk along with Mary. Grandpa tended Josh but could hardly keep up with him.

One night after a hot and hard day in the fields, John and Mary sat down to a hastily prepared dinner. Josh sat next to his grandpa as Mary placed a large bowl of porridge on the table. “Times have been better,” Mary sighed. “I’m looking forward to some fresh tomatoes and green beans.”

Grandpa tried to ladle some porridge. His hand shook so much that he toppled the bowl onto the dusty floor. “How clumsy!” Mary shouted.

It was more than the old man could bear. He slowly got up and left the table. John ignored the problem and sat silently as Mary grumbled and cleaned up the mess.

Each day the old man’s condition worsened. He began to drool. Mary sat him at a small table in the corner, away from the family as they ate. One night the old man’s trembling hand knocked his porcelain eating bowl off his little table. It landed with a crash and broke on the floor. Mary went out to the barn and got the wooden bowl used for chicken feed. She filled it with food and served the old man another supper. “Now here is one you won’t break,” Mary said.

One day when Josh was older and had learned to speak, Mary and John found him diligently chipping away with a stone at two chunks of wood. “What are you doing?” asked John. “I’m making you each a present!” replied Josh.

“What could it be?” John asked his son with delight.

“I am making the wooden chicken-feed bowls I will give to you and Mama to eat from when you are old,” said Josh.

The boy’s words stunned his father. The future loomed before John, and he saw himself old and forgotten.

When the tears cleared from his eyes, John noticed his frail father sitting alone in the corner. He gathered the old man in his arms and led him to the table and set a place for him with their best dishes. That night as Josh watched, his father fed the old grandpa tenderly with a silver spoon. He handed Mary a cloth napkin, and she gently wiped the old man’s drooling lips.

From that day on, John and Mary treated Sam with the same kindness and respect they hoped to receive from their own son in their elderly years.

Thought to Ponder

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“He who would pass his declining years with honor and comfort, should, when young, consider that he may one day become old, and remember when he is old, that he has once been young.”

Joseph Addison

Your Comments Welcome

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What’s on My Desk

Currently, I am reading…

Best Loved Folktales of the World by Joanna Cole, a thick book of classic folktales from all over the world. This book contains all your childhood favorites like “Sleeping Beauty,” “Snow White,” and “Cinderella,” as well as other little known but just as thought provoking tales from every corner of the globe.

Heart Tales News

Upcoming

February 17th - Jim speaks to Senior Citizens about depression at their monthly meeting sponsored by the Dover, NJ recreation department.

March 10th - Jim presents a night of stories and reflections entitled “Forgiveness on the Lenten Journey” at Mount Saint Mary’s House of Prayer in Watchung, NJ.

For more information about either event, or to book Jim to speak or tell stories, call him at 908-294-1822.

Book

My book, The Cracked Pot: Finding Grace in the Cracks of Child Abuse is available at Amazon.com

“This is one man’s true story of the unspeakable things that were done to him as a child and his rocky journey through adulthood to find God, peace AND his true self.”

Blog

If you enjoy this newsletter, check out The Heart Tales Blog at http://hearttales.net/blog. The blog is published every Monday and Thursday. Check out the current series about Ho-ichi the storyteller.

About Jim & Heart Tales

The true spirit of my work is to lead people on a life-changing adventure toward wholeness by connecting their hearts to their true selves, to others, and to God, through stories of healing, wisdom, and faith. My life-changing adventure toward wholeness includes performances of folk and fairy tales, sacred stories, and personal stories, and workshops on how to tell stories in therapeutic settings.

Feedback

“Jim’s storytelling spoke to many of the problems our women face on the road to recovery from addiction and gave them options for handling those problems they had not considered before.”
Helen Raytek, Program Director, Crawford House

“Jim, I want to thank you for your time, efforts, and talents in presenting your Clinical Benefits of Storytelling Workshop. I was very impressed with your professional and fun deliverance of the material and many useful resources and examples. I felt I benefited from it both personally and professionally, and will use what I learned…”
John J. D. Schweska, L.P.C. Assistant Program Director, Mobile Response and Stabilization Services, Catholic Charities, Diocese of Metuchen

“…your newsletter is a wonderful resource, and I hope that many will subscribe to it.”
Dr. Robert Bela Wilhelm, Storyfest Ministry

“…Thank you once again, Jim, for sharing your stories/your story and influencing my healing.”
Eileen

Use What You Have

January 7th, 2009

Welcome

Heart Tales is a monthly newsletter for people on an adventure toward wholeness. It is published by Jim Cyr, storyteller, author, and crisis intervention specialist.

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Use What You Have

Therapist and author George W. Burns, in his book, 101 Healing Stories, tells of the time he and his friend, Tom, traveled to Mt. Everest by yak. The story shows us that no matter what life has given us we can use it for our good.

In the small Tibetan town of Tingri, Tom and I had hired yaks and yak handlers for our journey to Mt. Everest. Chomolongma, of Mother Goddess, (as the world’s highest mountain is known to the Tibetans) lies several days trek across the stony and arid Tibetan plateau. To the south of us lay the snowy white peaks of the Himalaya, stretching high into clear and rich blue skies. Like a tall fence, these mountains that border the plateau shelter it from the moisture-laden clouds of the Indian monsoons and thus form the world’s highest desert. Not a tree or bush can be seen. The only vegetation is low, coarse tufts of occasional grass that fight for survival on the rocky terrain. The only animal that seems to survive is the yak, and only the yak’s capacity to manage these desolate, high-altitude areas enables humans to survive alongside them.

For the Tibetans, yaks are transport, clothing, food, fuel, and, indeed, life itself. Their wool is knitted into apparel and tents to stave off the bitter cold. Their hides make jackets, boots, and bed-clothes. Their meat, combined with ground, roasted barley, called tsampa, provides Tibetan’ staple diet. Yak milk churns into a rancid-tasting bitter which, when blended with tea and salt, makes a nutritious, cold-climate beverage. No product of the yak is wasted. Even its dung is used. On the treeless plateau there is no wood to burn for heating or cooking–and both are essential at these chilly altitudes. The Tibetans found an innovative solution. They gather the yak dung, mix it into watery pats, throw it onto the walls of their stone homes, and leave it to dry. These dung discs are subsequently stacked on the flat roofs of the houses, awaiting their use as fuel to warm the home and cook the food.

As Tom and I share the hospitality of a yak herder on the plateau one evening, we sat in his yak wool tent, sipped yak butter tea and choked on the smoke of a somewhat green yak dung fire. Despite the smoke we huddled close to it for the warmth. It was better than no fire, and as I sat there, I was filled with admiration. “What a resourceful people,” I thought to myself.” When life gives them nothing but shit, they can turn even that into something useful!”

 

Thought to Ponder

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How are you using what life has given you?

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Heart Tales Happenings

Book

My book, The Cracked Pot: Finding Grace in the Cracks of Child Abuse is available at Amazon.com

“This is one man’s true story of the unspeakable things that were done to him as a child and his rocky journey through adulthood to find God, peace AND his true self.”

Blog

If you enjoy this newsletter, check out The Heart Tales Blog at http://hearttales.net/blog. The blog is published every Monday and Thursday. Check out the current series about Ho-ichi the storyteller.

 About Jim & Heart Tales

 The true spirit of my work is to lead people on a life-changing adventure toward wholeness by connecting their hearts to their true selves, to others, and to God, through stories of healing, wisdom, and faith. My life-changing adventure toward wholeness includes performances of folk and fairy tales, sacred stories, and personal stories, and workshops on how to tell stories in therapeutic settings.

Feedback

 ”Jim’s storytelling spoke to many of the problems our women face on the road to recovery from addiction and gave them options for handling those problems they had not considered before.”
Helen Raytek, Program Director, Crawford House

“Jim, I want to thank you for your time, efforts, and talents in presenting your Clinical Benefits of Storytelling Workshop. I was very impressed with your professional and fun deliverance of the material and many useful resources and examples. I felt I benefited from it both personally and professionally, and will use what I learned…”
John J. D. Schweska, L.P.C. Assistant Program Director, Mobile Response and Stabilization Services, Catholic Charities, Diocese of Metuchen

“…your newsletter is a wonderful resource, and I hope that many will subscribe to it.”
Dr. Robert Bela Wilhelm, Storyfest Ministry

“…Thank you once again, Jim, for sharing your stories/your story and influencing my healing.”
Eileen

The Christmas Story

December 18th, 2008

Welcome

Heart Tales is a monthly newsletter for people on an adventure toward wholeness. It is published by Jim Cyr, storyteller, author, and crisis intervention specialist.

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The Christmas Story

Abridged and adapted by Jim Cyr from The Manager is Empty by Walter Wangerin, Jr.

Once upon a time the world was dark, and the land where the people lived was in deep darkness. It was as dark as the night in the daytime. It had been dark for so long that the people had forgotten what the light was like.

This is what they did: they lit small candles for themselves and pretended that it was day. But the world was a gloomy place, and the people who walked in darkness were lonelier than they knew, and the lonely people were sadder than they could say.

But God was in love with the world. God looked down from heaven and saw that the earth was stuck, like a clock at midnight. “No,” he said. This is not good. It’s time to make time tick again. Time…time,” said the mighty God, “to turn the earth from night to morning.

And God was in love with the people especially. He saw their little candlelight, and he pitied their pretending. “Poor people, pretending to be happy,” he said. “Well, I want them to be happy. It’s time,” declared the Lord our God. “It’s time to do a new thing! I’ll shatter their darkness. I will send sunlight down so they can see and know that they are seeing.”

God so loved the world that he sent his only Son into the world itself. This is how he did it.

It came to pass in those dark days that Caesar, the Emperor commanded that all the people should be counted. “A census,” he decreed. “Citizens, go to the cities of your parents and grandparents to be counted according to families there.” So people began to travel.

So Joseph, too, obeyed the command. He and Mary traveled south together, to the province named Judea, to a particular city of David called Bethlehem, but in that city to no particular house at all, for they had no house in Bethlehem.

Joseph was a descendant of King David, that’s why he came to Bethlehem. But there were hundreds and hundreds of others descended from David; the city was crowded with people, and that’s why there was no house–no rooms at all where Joseph could lay Mary down to rest for a while. Even in inn was full.

But the night was dark and cold. The night was deep and lonely. And Mary was huge with her child and tired. She was filled with tiredness and groaning.

“Joseph, it’s time, the baby’s coming. It’s time,” groaned Mary.

“Mary, can you wait a little longer?” fretted Joseph.

“No.”

“Mary, there’s no place for us.”

“It’s time,” she said.

So Joseph went running through the streets of his city. People were sleeping. Nobody noticed. Nobody answered his knocking.

So this is all he could find: a stable where travelers tied their beasts while they slept, a little shelter against the night.

“Mary,” he said as he led her there “Do you mind?”

“No,” groaned Mary.

“Can you lay on the straw?” asked Joseph.

“It’s time,” she said and knelt down.

So there it was that she brought forth her firstborn son; and she wrapped him in swaddling clothes and laid him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn.

And there were shepherds in that same dark country abiding in fields, keeping watch over their flocks by night.

And God turned to his angel. “Gabriel,” God said.

And the angel answered, “Yes, Lord?”

And the Lord God said, “Go down. All the people must know what I am doing. Tired and lonely, scattered and scared, all the people must hear it. Go, good Gabriel. Go down. Go tell a few to tell the others till every child has heard it. GO!”

So there was an angel flying through the night. So swiftly he flew that no one noticed him until he appeared to the weary shepherd. And their darkness was shattered, the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were sore afraid.

The angel said to them, “Don’t be afraid.”

But the light was like a hard and holy wind, and the shepherds shielded their faces with their arms.

“Hush,” said the angel, “hush,” like the west wind. “Shepherds, I bring you good news of great joy, and not only for you but for all the people. Listen!”

So the shepherds stood there squinting and blinking, and the shepherds began to listen. But none of them had the courage to talk or say anything. And this is what the angel Gabriel said.

“For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior who is Christ the Lord. And this will be a sign for you. You will find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes and lying in a manger.”

Suddenly, the sky itself split open, and like the fall of a thousand stars the light poured down. There came with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host prais9ing God and saying: “Glory to God in the highest and on earth…peace…Peace to the people with whom he is pleased!”

But the angels’ singing was soon over. And they went back into heaven and the sky was closed again. And there came a breeze…and a marvelous quiet…and the simple dark of the night. And the gloom, the darkness which had covered the earth for so long was lifted. For not all the light had gone back into heaven. The Light of the World himself stayed down on the earth.

So thin, this is what the shepherds said to one another: Lets go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has made known to us.”

So the shepherds got up and ran as fast as they could to the city of Bethlehem, to a particular stable in that city, and in that stable they gazed upon one particular baby, lying in the manager.

Then, in that moment, everything was glowing with light. For there was the infant, just waking, lifting his arms in the air, and making sucking motions with his mouth. The holy child was hungry. And there was his mother lying on the straw as lovely as a lily and listening to the noises of her child.

“Joseph?” she murmured.

And there was Joseph as sturdy as a barn, just bending toward his Mary.

“What?” he whispered.

And the shepherds eyes were shining for what they saw, exactly as if it were morning and not night. And the shepherds went out into the city and began at once to tell everyone what the angel had said about this child. They left a trail of startled people behind them, as they went on their way, glorifying and praising God.

But Mary did not so much as rise that night. She received the baby from Joseph’s hands, then placed him down on her breast while she lay on her side on the straw. With one arm she cradled the infant against her body. On the other arm, bent at the elbow, she rested her head: and she gazed at her small son sucking.

Mary lowered her long black lashes and watched him…and loved him.

“Jesus, Jesus,” she murmured, for the baby’s name was Jesus.

“Joseph?” she said glancing up.

“What May?”

But Mary fell silent and said no more. She was keeping all these things–all that had happened between the darkness and the light–and thinking about them in her heart.

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Thought to Ponder

“Let all mortal flesh keep silence, And with fear and trembling stand:  ponder nothing earthly minded, For  with blessing in His hand. Christ our God to earth descendeth, our full hommage to demand.”      Liturgy of St. James, 4th Centruy

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